i dont need to be the most fuckable person in the grocery store i just need to be the kind of person that at least 2 queers i pass think about wistfully later that day

Announcement :clapping:

I've launched a sister site called aus.party

Aus.party is a "Mobilizon" instance - Offers an alternative to Facebook Groups and Facebook Events!

So if you want to run public events or public groups (or migrate away from Facebook). Please consider giving it a look.

This is a "newish" service and will improve over time.

P.S. This instance is connected with deffo.com.au so events will be shared (run by our friends at chinwag)

Trans Lady Hair Loss Question 

Any trans lady on here try using Rogain to regrow hair on her temples? I'm thinking of trying it and wondering how it went for you or if you have any advice.

Thanks in advance!

This yarn is unplyed three ply yarn, and is really awkward to crochet cleanly. This will be good practice I imagine

Gosh, you all seem very shy about sharing your yarnybits :D

Fine, here's some of mine! On the odd occasion when the mood strikes me I like crocheting vintage doily patterns, but with sewing thread in bright colours and a 1.5mm crochet hook. These are all about 40cm diameter.

You can find loads of these patterns for free here:

freevintagecrochet.com/doilies

#crochet #vintage

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Just finished a 3.5 year Curse of Strahd DnD5e campaign. boy howdy was that a journey!

Google fired another woman working in the ethics of AI... because she was looking into why they fired the woman before her who was working in the ethics of AI.

cyberpunklibrarian.com/cybersy

Discussion of racism/sexism/bigotry 

And it really outlines why session zeros are important. I can carry on now, knowing that continuing that game would probably have engendered friction later down the line, at a point where we were much more invested in the game/story.

I feel bad for the DM and his prep, but I already suggested to him that he continue the game without me.

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Discussion of racism/sexism/bigotry 

And we have to listen to that second voice/reaction. The first one is the one we're taught, the habit, the ingrained response, the second is the one we learnt after we know better.

So. Take the time to process what you feel when you feel them, but learn from that process.

For me, if any of that discussion actually changed how the DM sees things, I'll take my loss and be happy with it.

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Discussion of racism/sexism/bigotry 

And I'm painfully aware this is not just white people. God, the amount of racism in Asian communities is ridiculous. I was brought up to think Indigenous Australians were dangerous to be around, and places where they lived were places to avoid. (this is a specifically Asian Australian trend)

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Discussion of racism/sexism/bigotry 

You should be both secure in the knowledge that you aren't deliberately racist, but also understand some things are built into our society, and -need- to be re-examined.

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ttrpg state of affairs 

And here's the blanket statement. Friends, if I bring up a discussion of racism or bigotry in a non-confrontational situation (ie, pretty much anywhere), I am not accusing you specifically of being a racist/bigot. I would not be friends with you if you were a blatant one.

So please, be adult about it and consider the point before reacting with your first thought that comes to mind.

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ttrpg state of affairs 

But asking a group of white Millennials to have some self awareness about issues is clearly what they're looking to escape from in this nice DnD session.

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ttrpg state of affairs 

The closest I got to showing actual disapproval of them personally, was when one championed JKR as "definitely having a point about trans people" and god that is an entirely different can of worms

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ttrpg state of affairs 

Also it got suggested that I contact the other players and apologise for the discussion, and...

Look. If discussion about racism and sexism in what's essentially a session zero, in a ttrpg fandom that you have never interacted in makes you feel so uncomfortable that you feel you need an apology.... 1) You have never played 5e so naturally any discussion of racism clearly does not imply you. 2) why do we always need to apologise to the white people for experienced racism?

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ttrpg state of affairs 

And hey, that campaign I was in discussion in has now been cancelled because they "don't want that kind of energy in it". Like I understand, but I'm so tired.

Perhaps bringing this up in a group that is just starting in 5e was a bit early, but "Look we'd feel more comfortable if you just shut up and not bring up racism or anything that's inbuilt in the fabric of our fantasy game so we can continue to ignore it" is so.. yeah.

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