Sigh. I may never overcome the disappointment and confusion resulting from being blocked without warning by somebody who I've been chatting to on a dating app on and off for months and developed an allegedly mutual interest in.
I mean sure, people can change their minds and many don't have the energy (or feel safe) to communicate this directly, but it still hurts a bit when you say "hi" to them after having not spoken for a while, only to be immediately blocked in response. 🙁
@mattcen I feel the same.
Is it too much to say, f.e. Thank you for the nice chat, but I'm no longer interested in you?
@mattcen the only times I’ve done that are when they are openly racist (to me or others), treated me (and my colleagues) as disposable while being horribly sycophantic (wouldn’t play/chat in the first place), or starts the conversation by addressing me as slave right away.
I too had the same frustration, especially for the ones that stopped mid-conversation. But then not everyone has same guidelines, and they aren’t obliged to engage even tho a closure would be nice.
@pupnixie sure, I totally understand blocking people who are... Being unkind in various ways, or have made you uncomfortable; there are times I've done that myself.
I also agree that nobody is owed an explanation, but it would be a nice and courteous thing to do. That can require energy and good communication skills though.
It still doesn't feel any better to be on the receiving end of, though.
@mattcen The energy and effort spent on the conversation are definitely frustrating whenever that happens. Bit of an introvert myself and opening up wasn’t easy.
These days I feel like I dodged a bullet whenever that happens, cause even just for play, communication is crucial. Still it doesn’t help when I get mixed signals (especially warm in person and lack of communication over apps) and don’t know how to interpret those cues.
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